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Sometimes we all have just that one question that needs to be answered and we don't know who to turn to. That's why I've decided to start a new online relationship/advice column. If you're someone who has a question about your career, love life, life in general, or "How I Did it," write me here at Ask Marial. Every week I'll choose several readers questions and answer them here. Hopefully we can become friends and I can help not only my readers, but others out there who may have questions of their own. I look forward to hearing from you soon...Marial

I experience deja vu all the time. Is it possible I could be psychic? How would I know? Based on Webster's definition "deja vu" means: 1 a : the illusion of remembering scenes and events when experienced for the first time b : a feeling that one has seen or heard something before 2 : something overly or unpleasantly familiar. Yes, what you experience, when you have this sensation is a form of mild psychic ability. It's an awareness of a situation and/or place that somehow seems vaguely familiar to you. It's possible that you may have had a dream about the place, or somehow had a form of a past life recall that gave you this sense of deja vu. When you feel these things you should write them down and journal the experience for future reference. If it happens frequently, look for a pattern to figure out what this feeling is trying to tell you.

I have a friend who committed suicide recently. Will his sprit be trapped here or is it possible he could have moved on to the other side? Depending on what your personal belief system is, the "soul" of a person who commits suicide normally lingers in a "limbo" sense before they can actually transition to the other side. You can help his "soul" move forward to the other side by praying for him in whatever spiritual path you follow. As a medium, I personally feel that souls with unfinished business are stuck here for a while until they can indeed finish their business, be it say goodbye, or otherwise.

I'm happily married but I find myself attracted to women recently. I've become more active in sports and socializing and I meet a lot of new people. Is this a mid-life crisis (I'm 35) or is it possible to become a lesbian overnight? I'm not a psychologist or qualified therapist of any kind so I'll answer this strictly from a lay person's point of view. What it sounds like you are experiencing is admiration for women in your sport. Does this make you a lesbian overnight? I don't think so. There's a big difference in respecting and admiring women that you engage in sports with vs taking the next step with them. I think you should enjoy your activity and the opportunity to make new friends no matter where that may lead you.

There is a woman in my apartment building that is never happy. She complains all the time and never has a kind word for anyone. Yet if a neighbor gets into trouble she is the first person to offer help, she lets the neighborhood kids use her back porch to store their toys, and there isn't a stray cat or dog in the area that she won't take in and find a home for. Now she's faced with eviction and some of us could help her out, but she is such a sour person we don't want to continue living next to her. How can we assist her and still get rid of her? There are just some people who no matter what they may do still have a negative outlook on life. Your neighbor is one of these people. She finds the negative stronger than the positive force in her life. She may be nice enough at times to help others but yet, she's not had the chance to learn to let go of the negative. In my honest opinion, what you can do to is to help her pack up her things and offer to help move her. It's obvious that you would prefer to lose that negative energy in your apartment building so by helping her pack her things and helping her with the physical move itself you're doing two things, returning the kindness that she sometimes shows her neighbors, and creating a new kindness for the rest of the people that will continue living in the building.

I found books about the occult in my son's room. He's a teenager and I'd like to chalk it up to him expanding his horizons, but should I be worried? How do I talk to him about this? You state your son is a teenager and truthfully, we all know that teens are always looking to push their boundaries. As a mom of a teenage son there were also times that I found unusual books and/or otherwise objects in my son's room and I would just simply ask him "I was putting the laundry away and saw this on your nightstand." We have had a really good relationship for a long time so I would sit and listen while he explained to me what the book was about. Then I would open up a dialog with him about my opinions of his interest. Teens don't always want to listen but I've found that if you at least try to listen to their point of view with an open mind they will more than likely listen to your thoughts with an equally open mind. So yes, by all means talk to your son about his choice of reading material and find out what has led him in the direction of wanting to read about the "occult."

I have noticed that my intuitive senses are heightened when I am under stress and result either in more active and specific dreams or in just a "knowing" about a situation or person. When this takes place, I also notice a heightened sense of smell at those times. It is a consistent smell in that I recognize it every time it occurs. It stays with me at all times during these periods and unpredictably increases at various times when an intuitive feeling comes to me. Is this strange or unusual? Is this consistent or inconsistent with signs of intuition? Stress, especially in a person who is either empathic or has some awakened sense of their own intuition can act as a trigger mechanism. What happens is that the subconcious becomes more active in the dreaming state because the person has a hard time of letting go of their stress before they go to sleep. These are what I like to call "surround sound & technicolor" dreams. When it comes to the" knowing" things about a person or a situation it's because you're more finely in tuned to the vibrations that are out there. The more stress/anxiety for some, the more their senses are heightened to every little thing around them, including the sense of smell. When you think about it, you should realize that what you are smelling is something that is vaguely familiar to you. It may even go back into your childhood and a smell that you associate, albeit it subconciously, with tension. Is this common in people who are natural intuitives, yes, for some it is. What happens is that you instinctly know how to use all your senses at a much higher level than most. You see things differently, as well as hear, smell, and just in general "know" things differently. What you need to learn how to pay attention to is exactly what is the circumstance that you're involved in when these things happen. Lean what the pattern is and you'll know how to control this much better.

"Disclaimer: Marial is not a psychologist or qualified therapist of any kind nor does she state to be otherwise clinically and/or professionally qualified. The opinions and advice that are offered herein are strictly from a personal point of view, which includes 20+ years of psychic consultation experience. She is in no way, responsible legally or otherwise for your thoughts, choices, and/or actions based on the content of this advice that is given. This is for entertainment purposes only. For medical and/or legal questions, those should be sought out by professionals in their field. This advice should not be substituted for any clinical, medical, or legal advice that you have from a specialist in the field.
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Sometimes we all have just that one question that needs to be answered and we don't know who to turn to. That's why I've decided to start a new online relationship/advice column. If you're someone who has a question about your career, love life, life in general, or "How I Did it," write me here at Ask Marial. Every week I'll choose several readers questions and answer them here. Hopefully we can become friends and I can help not only my readers, but others out there who may have questions of their own. I look forward to hearing from you soon...Marial

I experience deja vu all the time. Is it possible I could be psychic? How would I know?

Based on Webster's definition "deja vu" means: 1 a : the illusion of remembering scenes and events when experienced for the first time b : a feeling that one has seen or heard something before 2 : something overly or unpleasantly familiar.

Yes, what you experience, when you have this sensation is a form of mild psychic ability. It's an awareness of a situation and/or place that somehow seems vaguely familiar to you. It's possible that you may have had a dream about the place, or somehow had a form of a past life recall that gave you this sense of deja vu. When you feel these things you should write them down and journal the experience for future reference. If it happens frequently, look for a pattern to figure out what this feeling is trying to tell you.

I have a friend who committed suicide recently. Will his sprit be trapped here or is it possible he could have moved on to the other side?

Depending on what your personal belief system is, the "soul" of a person who commits suicide normally lingers in a "limbo" sense before they can actually transition to the other side. You can help his "soul" move forward to the other side by praying for him in whatever spiritual path you follow. As a medium, I personally feel that souls with unfinished business are stuck here for a while until they can indeed finish their business, be it say goodbye, or otherwise.

I'm happily married but I find myself attracted to women recently. I've become more active in sports and socializing and I meet a lot of new people. Is this a mid-life crisis (I'm 35) or is it possible to become a lesbian overnight?

I'm not a psychologist or qualified therapist of any kind so I'll answer this strictly from a lay person's point of view. What it sounds like you are experiencing is admiration for women in your sport. Does this make you a lesbian overnight? I don't think so. There's a big difference in respecting and admiring women that you engage in sports with vs taking the next step with them. I think you should enjoy your activity and the opportunity to make new friends no matter where that may lead you.

There is a woman in my apartment building that is never happy. She complains all the time and never has a kind word for anyone. Yet if a neighbor gets into trouble she is the first person to offer help, she lets the neighborhood kids use her back porch to store their toys, and there isn't a stray cat or dog in the area that she won't take in and find a home for. Now she's faced with eviction and some of us could help her out, but she is such a sour person we don't want to continue living next to her. How can we assist her and still get rid of her?

There are just some people who no matter what they may do still have a negative outlook on life. Your neighbor is one of these people. She finds the negative stronger than the positive force in her life. She may be nice enough at times to help others but yet, she's not had the chance to learn to let go of the negative. In my honest opinion, what you can do to is to help her pack up her things and offer to help move her. It's obvious that you would prefer to lose that negative energy in your apartment building so by helping her pack her things and helping her with the physical move itself you're doing two things, returning the kindness that she sometimes shows her neighbors, and creating a new kindness for the rest of the people that will continue living in the building.

I found books about the occult in my son's room. He's a teenager and I'd like to chalk it up to him expanding his horizons, but should I be worried? How do I talk to him about this?

You state your son is a teenager and truthfully, we all know that teens are always looking to push their boundaries. As a mom of a teenage son there were also times that I found unusual books and/or otherwise objects in my son's room and I would just simply ask him "I was putting the laundry away and saw this on your nightstand." We have had a really good relationship for a long time so I would sit and listen while he explained to me what the book was about. Then I would open up a dialog with him about my opinions of his interest. Teens don't always want to listen but I've found that if you at least try to listen to their point of view with an open mind they will more than likely listen to your thoughts with an equally open mind. So yes, by all means talk to your son about his choice of reading material and find out what has led him in the direction of wanting to read about the "occult."

I have noticed that my intuitive senses are heightened when I am under stress and result either in more active and specific dreams or in just a "knowing" about a situation or person. When this takes place, I also notice a heightened sense of smell at those times. It is a consistent smell in that I recognize it every time it occurs. It stays with me at all times during these periods and unpredictably increases at various times when an intuitive feeling comes to me. Is this strange or unusual? Is this consistent or inconsistent with signs of intuition?

Stress, especially in a person who is either empathic or has some awakened sense of their own intuition can act as a trigger mechanism. What happens is that the subconcious becomes more active in the dreaming state because the person has a hard time of letting go of their stress before they go to sleep. These are what I like to call "surround sound & technicolor" dreams. When it comes to the" knowing" things about a person or a situation it's because you're more finely in tuned to the vibrations that are out there. The more stress/anxiety for some, the more their senses are heightened to every little thing around them, including the sense of smell. When you think about it, you should realize that what you are smelling is something that is vaguely familiar to you. It may even go back into your childhood and a smell that you associate, albeit it subconciously, with tension. Is this common in people who are natural intuitives, yes, for some it is. What happens is that you instinctly know how to use all your senses at a much higher level than most. You see things differently, as well as hear, smell, and just in general "know" things differently. What you need to learn how to pay attention to is exactly what is the circumstance that you're involved in when these things happen. Lean what the pattern is and you'll know how to control this much better.

"Disclaimer: Marial is not a psychologist or qualified therapist of any kind nor does she state to be otherwise clinically and/or professionally qualified. The opinions and advice that are offered herein are strictly from a personal point of view, which includes 20+ years of psychic consultation experience. She is in no way, responsible legally or otherwise for your thoughts, choices, and/or actions based on the content of this advice that is given. This is for entertainment purposes only. For medical and/or legal questions, those should be sought out by professionals in their field. This advice should not be substituted for any clinical, medical, or legal advice that you have from a specialist in the field.

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